5 Steps To Finding Your True Self

How do you see yourself? Often we don’t see each other at all. We don’t even see ourselves through the eyes of others. We see ourselves the same way we think others see us. So it’s no wonder you feel this way You are lost.

Let’s explain this a little further to clarify who we really are. Ask yourself, “How do I think others see me?” » » Do I look fragile or strong? Smart or stupid? Hardworking or lazy? Broken or resistant?

Now ask yourself again: Am I really the way I think people see me? Who am I from my point of view? Who am I really? What aspects of myself feel authentic to me??

Spend time thinking about how you could be the person you are now, why that doesn’t feel like you, and how you could change your perspective or actions to be more in tune with your true self.

Sometimes we feel lost when we don’t know what we want. Who are we really if we don’t know where we are going or why? So when we try to know ourselves, we need to be clear about what we really want?

Do we want love? Freedom? Championship?

Think for a moment about what you really want. Do you already have it? What is it about what you want that feels true to you? Maybe you want to succeed not because of the money or prestige, but because of the security, competence, or purpose it gives you. Dig deeper and see if you can figure it out What are you really?.

The media (and social media) can make us feel unattractive. Everyone has been taking selfies and editing their photos to perfection, which often makes us look unattractive in comparison.

Unfortunately, the more media we consume featuring attractive people, the more we are in a worse situation. But because we don’t want to give up on our media, we don’t give up.

This is why we hear a hundred times a day that we are not good enough, that we do not have enough, and that we should always strive to be something we are not.

No matter how hard we try to improve, we always feel like we’re failing.

Another way to find us is Let’s celebrate our strengths. Everyone is bad at this. In fact, we are all terrible at most things. But who cares?! We will never find ourselves again if we always focus on how bad we are. We focus on what we are good at.

For example, I sometimes put myself down because I’m not good at maintaining long-term friendships. It’s true. I am a introvert. I’m often afraid of making friends. But when we regularly devalue ourselves for the things we’re not good at, it becomes difficult to love ourselves as much as we could.

So not only must we work on improving our weaknesses, but we must also remember what we are good at: our own. To strengthen. Hey, maybe our weird, unique selves are pretty awesome after all.

What stops us from being ourselves?

This is often the case our fear about what others might think the real thing We. For example, maybe our friends all have the same opinion on a political issue and we decide not to share our different point of view. Maybe people like a certain type of music, so we decide not to talk about that type of music. We How. Or maybe our partner likes to eat at fancy restaurants, so we decide not to invite them to the casual dinner we’d really prefer.

We often hold back because we are afraid of the possible consequences. As social beings, we all face the challenge of achieving balance Self-expression with social harmony in our personal interactions.

But today, in the age of technology, we must meet this challenge in a completely new environment: on the Internet, through texts, images or videos. And we don’t have a role model, so we do what everyone else does. We only show a fraction of who we really are – the best part of us.

We get into trouble when our self-expression becomes a performance designed to elicit a reaction from others. The result? Few people in our lives know, deep down, who we really are We may even begin to forget who we really are deep down.

So how do we know if we are just presenting to an audience and not who we really are?

Well, we might ask ourselves: Who is the person we pretend to be on social media – the person with the perfect clothes, the photoshopped body and the biggest smile you’ve ever seen? And when that happens, we really have to do it Rethinking our relationship with social media and technology in general.

Another important step in self-discovery is revealing our vulnerability.

Most of us, myself included, don’t really want to show the parts of ourselves we don’t like. We are worried — What happens if others change their opinion of us, reject us or give up We?

It’s scary to be like this openly authentic and vulnerable. But to be fully ourselves, we must be ours complete ourselves. We can’t just choose the pieces we like; We can’t just show the polished, photoshopped version of ourselves. This is why we need to be vulnerable from time to time.

First, we could Practice being more vulnerable on social media. For example, some people I know have posted about herpes and irritable bowel syndrome. Another person I know posts when she’s sad and wants to connect with us. And tons of women (and some men) have now posted their personal stories of sexual harassment under the hashtags #MeToo and #WhatIDidntReport.

These are all examples of people telling stories about themselves that aren’t really funny: their feelings and stories make them vulnerable. But they always do it to express who they really are.

Whether you share your personal stories with everyone or just a few people close to us is up to us. Our goal is to be yourself, at least some of the time.

To learn more about how to have a better relationship with technology, check out my book: Outsmart Your Smartphone: Mindful Tech Habits to Find Happiness, Balance, and Connection in Real Life.