The Meaning of Meaning: Definition, Explanation, and Examples

The word ‘meaning’ in English is incredibly confusing. Meaning is the concept, definition, or explanation of something. But if something is “meaningful”, it has some important or significant concept, definition, or explanation.
 
When we “search for meaning” we are rarely looking up the definition of meaning. No, we are looking for a deeper, more meaningful reason for why something is the way it is. We are really looking for a “meaningful meaning”.
 
Did I already mention that meaning was confusing? 😉

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What is the definition of a meaningful meaning—or a relevant, significant, or valuable explanation of something? For example,

• What is the meaning of life?
• What are meaningful ways to spend time? And,
• What gives life a sense of meaning?

The answers to these questions will depend on who you ask–psychologists, religious scholars, philosophers, etc… But ultimately, the definition of meaning reflects what is meaningful to you and it is up to you.

To create your own definition of meaning, start by asking yourself what is meaningful to you. in other words, ask yourself the following questions:

• What gives you a sense of life purpose?
• What, if removed, would leave you feeling meaning-less?
• What matters to you?
• What is important and significant in your life?
• What are your values?
• What are you passionate about?
• What are your aspirations or big dreams?
• What’s on your wish list for your life?

​Even if you currently feel like your life lacks meaning, these questions can help you start to find the small things in your life that do indeed provide some meaning. Then you can use these insights to cultivate more meaning, simply by creating more of these things or situations in your life.

For example, if the last time you felt like your life had meaning was years ago when you were volunteering for an important cause, or when you were helping your children learn to read, then you know that you can create more meaning—and a more meaningful life—by doing more of these things. These might be the types of things that help you live your life to the fullest. but we’re all different, so finding your meaning takes some self-reflection.

Even though we all differ in our exact definitions of meaning, research has shown that certain things tend to contribute more to meaning while other things contribute more to happiness. A meaningful life and a happy life often go together, but happiness often has more to do with being healthy, having enough money, or feeling comfortable in life. Meaning, on the other hand, has more to do with reflecting on the past, present, and future and finding some sort of reason or explanation that helps it all make sense.

Indeed, our mind, and the way we look at the world, is often responsible for what we believe is meaningful and what we believe lacks meaning. In this way, our mindsets can get us trapped in a believing that our life has no meaning. Luckily, by bringing more presence to our moment-to-moment experiences, we can find the meaning that our minds can not find. There is always meaning to be found in “the now”.

Although happiness can come from spending time with other people—doing fun things, building connections, and having allies during hard times—meaning also arises from relationships. In particular, meaning comes from treating others well, with kindness, generosity, and gratitude for others. For example, parenting tends to contribute to greater meaning but not greater happiness.

Meaning & Stress
Meaning also often involves psychological stress or challenges. When we do things that are hard, we often derive more meaning from them. The common adage, “nothing worth doing is easy” represents how challenging, important, or difficult tasks tend to generate more meaning than simpler tasks.
 
Self-knowledge and self-expression seem to be integral to meaning as well. For example, our cultural or personal identities, which may include experiencing hardship, do not necessarily make us happier. But knowing ourselves and how we came to be who we are seems to contribute to a greater sense of meaning.

Victor Frankl, author of the book entitled, “Man’s Search for Meaning”, was a psychologist and a Holocaust Survivor whose search for meaning saved his life. His great question to himself was, what gives meaning to our lives? He even used his Auschwitz experiences to develop a psychological therapy called logotherapy, for curing the soul by leading it to find meaning in life.

As Frankl said, meaning is a sort of a “cure” for the soul. Indeed, having meaning in life is associated with better physical and mental health. Searching for meaning, on the other hand, seems to be associated with worse mental health (likely because you don’t have it).

What makes something meaningful? Well, it depends a bit on what we think is important, significant, or valuable, but here are some examples of meaning in situations that many people experience.

• The birth of a child
• A reconciliation with a loved one
• Immersing yourself in a new culture or way of life
• Getting an important job
• The death of a loved one
• Divorce, separation, or breakup of a significant relationship
• Loss of a job
• A natural disaster
• A near-death experience
• Getting diagnosed with a significant disease

As you can see, meaning can come from experiences that are both positive and negative. Again, when we start to look at meaning more carefully, it becomes clear why meaning and happiness are not the same thing.

If we want to create lives of meaning, we also need to think about meaningful situations that we can create. Here are some examples of meaningful situations that we can create. 
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• Volunteering for a cause we care about
• Helping others
• Taking care of children or pets
• Going to a place the provokes a sense of awe
• Starting a new project
• Overcoming a fear or challenge
• Showing courage
• Expressing your true self
• Practicing random acts of kindness

You can take a variety of actions to create meaning. It’s also helpful to pause and notice the small bits of meaning already in your daily activities.

Frankl believed there were 3 main areas where we could find meaning: in work – by doing something significant, in love – by caring for another person, and in finding courage during difficult times.

​In Frankl’s case, his highest hope was for reunion with his wife, as such thoughts, hopes, and prayers uplifted him. He also used his mind to imagine the lectures he would give once he was back at his teaching job at the university again. He was fond of quoting Nietzsche: “He who has a ‘Why’ to live for can bear almost any ‘How.’”

When faced with a disappointing situation, like a job loss or a divorce, you can slide down the rabbit’s hole of despair and gloom, or you can try to make meaning from your hardship.

Start by taking a few deep breaths and then try to look at the situation with the goal of finding meaning. Remember, there is just as much meaning (if not more) in challenging situations as there is in easy or positive situations. In fact, it’s usually the challenges that help us discover who we truly are and reveal meaning to us. So when in doubt, look for meaning in all things—both the good and the bad.

Another way to cultivate more meaning is by being creative, perhaps through art, music, writing, making videos, or starting our own business. It can feel meaningful when we create something from scratch, perhaps something that will still be available for future generations. 

And be sure to do your best. We can often feel a greater sense of meaning and purpose when we do a good job at something. For example, you could strive to make your creative work of art as good as you can (but watch our for perfectionism which can harm well-being). 

One of the best ways to cultivate life purpose is by giving, being kind, compassionate, and generous–as a result, you may feel like you are in greater alignment with your personal values.

So ask yourself, what are the gifts that you can contribute? It could be as simple as an encouraging word, an uplifting thought, or a hug. To find meaning in the moment, look for ways to make another happy, however briefly. A simple ‘hello’ is sometimes enough. Or find ways to connect to others, to support one another, and to help others shine.

You could try community service, helping others who are struggling, or joining a program to clean up the environment. Or, if a neighbor is isolated in their home, you could offer to get some groceries or make an effort to chat a bit when you see them. When you are giving, you can start to feel that you are providing something that helps others. In short, engage in ‘random acts of kindness’ to boost a sense of meaning. 

Here’s a quick exercise. Take 3 deep belly breaths, filling your lungs with the intention to see and experience meaning in your life. Try to surrender your need to know the answers, your eagerness to reach an outcome, and just be in the moment.

Sit in the silence and listen from within the cells of your body, from within your DNA for insights that might provide you with more meaning. If an answer comes, explore it.

• How does it feel?
• What does it mean?
• How will you pursue it?

​With these insights, you truly can create more meaning in your life.

Although meaning can mean a variety of different things to different people, it often emerges as a result of a “life well-lived”. That can mean building healthy relationships, checking exciting activities off our bucket list, or simply living every day with gratitude and contentment. The important thing is to look within and discover what is meaningful for you.